I have a completely valid excuse as to why I haven’t blogged in 800 years.
Wait… no I don’t.
There are no excuses for that kind of thing and I would never try to feed them to you. On the other hand, I’m not allowing myself to feel guilty for my lack of blogging and I’m not apologizing because this is MY blog and I’m working on this thing where I don’t apologize for doing what I want to do, which has been to take a break.
Not to mention… I’ve been brewing some fabulous ideas and just was on a bit of a hiatus before the real genius comes out. Yeah… yeah that’s it.
I have been through some extreme life changes lately though and I’m back, new and improved, just as into fashion as ever and with every intention to keep up with this blog.
So to all of you dedicated followers out there (mom), you can rest easy.
As far as a fashion post goes, there are many of those to come. I recently got a new job where the dress code is business casual and I’m super excited to show you guys some more professional looking yet stylish outfits for work. BUT—I decided to share some insight with you guys that I’ve learned in the past couple of months that I’ve been MIA. After all, if I go missing like that, I owe you guys a life lesson, right? I’m putting this one on my “beauty” section, because beauty doesn’t just mean hair, nails and makeup… and well I want to get sappy and talk about some inner beauty.
Today’s post is about finding your happiness (YOURS, not anyone else’s). I am still figuring things out, so trust me I’m not on any high horse, but what I’ve recently learned is something very simple yet so hard for many to grasp (including myself). If you’re not happy, change something. It was the most freeing moment of my life when I realized that my life is in my control. I don’t have to live life to please others, I don’t have to keep people around who bring negative energy into my life (whether they mean to or not, this is YOUR life, so however YOU feel is valid), and I don’t have to stay in a situation where I’m anxious and/or not the best possible version of myself.
I’m talking about friends, a job, a location, a relationship… whatever it may be. You have every right to shape your life however you want. Be selfish and do what makes you happy.
My biggest mistake was always letting other people steer my life in whatever direction they so please. I became bitter towards people that didn’t understand what I was bitter about and in turn it hurt them. This was my fault. I gave them the impression that they can tell me what to do, who to be, how to be “better”. How was I supposed to ever feel confident in myself when my confidence all depended on the opinions of others who will never be pleased?
I recently decided to just take over the wheel and steer my life into a new direction. It was amazing how easy it was. Sure, it wasn’t easy to say goodbye to a life I grew accustomed to, but once I realized, “wow… I wasn’t happy so I just decided to do something different, and now here I am, happier than ever before.” It made me feel so empowered. It made me want to share with everyone that it’s more than possible.
I had completely lost myself and now that I’m back to being me, I am remembering that I’m a young, confident, funny, smart person. It’s a shame I had forgotten for so many years but I don’t believe in regret and I 100% believe everything happens for a reason. So I think people come in and out of your life and I think you experience different things and feelings, good and bad, in order to shape the wonderful person you become for the present… and the shaping and improving never stops.
Love and accept yourself and once you do that, you will attract people who accept you fully for who you are as well. Don’t let anyone make you feel not good enough just because you aren’t who THEY want you to be. That’s their problem. Don’t waste your life trying to change for anyone because you will become convinced that you’re crazy and in turn possibly portray craziness that is not you. It’s exhausting and life is short and you are not crazy, you’re you and you’re freaking awesome. There is no criteria to being freaking awesome, don’t let someone convince you there is. The only criterion is to believe you’re freaking awesome and only surround yourself with people who agree with that.
Until next time with a fashion post from the happier and more confident me…
Vogue in the Valley 